What is it ?
Have you ever heard that term before, Cock blocking?If I remember it correctly, maybe a 90’s phrase, my interpretation is when you are talking to someone you are interested in and you might tell a friend or acquaintance that, and they turn around and start talking, and/or flirting to that very person you are interested in.
How I remembered it
On a couple of occasions it has happened to me, But there was a woman (let’s call her Bebe) who did the cock blocking. She had introduced me to her friend in a lounge. We hit it off, we started dancing, joking around together and I thought there is something here (chemistry) and I would like to see her again
I should have asked for the woman’s phone number right there, but instead I didn’t so I asked my friend(Bebe) what’s the story about her girlfriend, well to my surprise she said I’ll be wasting my time! I didn’t believe it, I said to myself.
The true story
I felt this happened a couple of times to me, being in the same group of friends I was hanging out with, a female friend of mine (let’s call her Jane)who was there every time, I told her I felt I was being cocked blocked by Bebe. And I told my friend (Jane) if she noticed it when I was around any of her girlfriends if her attitude (Bebe) was different.
I found out later that my friend(Bebe) had a crush on me! Unfortunately I didn’t feel the same for her, this did cause a few issues between us, but it was resolved later on.
What can you do?
Some suggestions I thought of was to confront my friend and ask what’s going on? Which I didn’t at the time, I just let it slide.
But in the future if that happens to you, Talk with that person who is doing the blocking and……
- Ask why he/she did that to you
- Do they like the same person as well?
- Is there some type of jealousy?
- Say this can impact the friendship
- Do we just step aside for the sake of our friend ?
I had never done that to any friend. If that was to happen in this day and age, believe me, I would confront my friend and either move forward or back off, especially if the woman is someone who I just met, and I don't have strong feelings yet.
Sometimes, it’s not worth losing a friend, talk it out and see how it can be resolved.
Thanks for reading
Just a conversation, No judgement