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People On Dating Ep 71 : Why Are So Many Men Struggling? and What To Do About It W/J Stamatelos

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About J Stamatelos :

James J. Stamatelos is a professional coach who helps people break out of fear so they can share their gifts with the world. His work focuses on “anxious insecurity” - a chronic feeling of being "not enough" regardless of how much we achieve.

He personally fought this battle, has spent a decade helping those who fight it now, and focuses on evidence-based and data-informed interventions.

I almost lost my life to severe self-loathing and insecurity and have dedicated the last 10 years of my life to answering two key questions: 1) why do so many of us feel like we're chronically "not enough" no matter how much we achieve, and 2) what interventions actually work in fixing this? I've spent years reading academic papers, working with clients, and collaborating with others. After all this time, one solution stands consistent - developing a healthy self-relationship founded on self-compassion is the best way forward. However, this isn't always easy to do - and for many of us, the idea of it can even feel like a threat.

Before becoming a coach, I worked in counter-terrorism and emergency response. I specialize in working with men, previously ran the only secular men's group in Pittsburgh, and believe many of our struggles come back to men being unable to process their emotions in a healthy way.

J's Value Adds
Being isolated from other men
Good connection within & out
Join a group
Social media is killing talking
Have a actual conversation w/someone
Stop self rejection
And much more..........

00:00 Music intro
00:20 Guest intro
01:10 J's journey
03:15 My take on men's struggles
05:00 Different value sets
07:40 Good connection within you & externally
09:55 The lone wolf
11:50 Social media is killing the conversation
15:10 Actually talking with someone
17:20 What do you have in common
20:00 Tribe, Book recommendation
22:50 Fear of rejection
26:00 Social skills
29:40 J's info & ending of show

Links From The Podcast
@willmoralesPod (Youtube)
@williem38301075 (Twitter)

No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz
Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
Tribe by Sebastian Junger
Lost Connections by Johann Hari
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

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